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Getting To Commitment

Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment issues or involved with someone who is.

He's Scared, She's Scared

Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

Men Who Can't Love

This book saved me from going crazy and from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded just like the people in this book she'd read - "Men Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the same time.

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

This is a great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual to other are understandable and can be explained and treated.

Fellow CP lover's Story (in love with a CP)

When I first met 'G', he told me he'd had some unsuccessful relationships due to his own immaturity. Gee, do you think THAT might have been a red light for me? Then he proceeded to tell me that he is at a point in his life where he wants to re-evaluate his lifestyle, become healthier, and have a long-term relationship finally. Now, before I sound like a complete idiot for staying with him this long, let me explain that he is an actor, was in a rock and roll band, and has many friends in the dancing, literary, acting, and musical worlds.

So partly, his lifestyle is affected by this somewhat unique genre of professionals. G also continues to demonstrate a real commitment to a healthy lifestyle, he drinks little alcohol, works out daily, attends university to obtain his Master's degree, eats incredibly healthy, and reads personal growth books and attends life skills workshops. These are things he does on his own, I have only encouraged him on the Master's idea. So in the year and a half that we've been together, I have seen him genuinely take responsibility for changing his life. In terms of our relationship, he, to this day, calls me practically daily, sometimes twice daily, just to check in, or see what we can do together.

He has bought me flowers about 5 times and lingerie twice. He has attended my sons' school and sport functions, family gatherings, and gone on summer holidays with us. He can communicate very well with me about feelings, childhood stuff, intimacy, etc. What then, is the problem? It seems I'm the one to plan ahead in this relationship.

I invited him to spend summer holidays with my sons and I. I am the one to point out that he often sleeps over and then leaves in the morning and that this hurts me. He requires a LOT of time to himself, he reads a lot, and I've often felt that I'm "nagging" for more of him in my life. I did a test at Christmas time. I didn't talk about plans together, or who was going to be at which family's place, and guess what? He didn't either. So I went ahead and visited my brother and his family for Christmas.

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I broke up with G at this point, because I was deeply hurt that he didn't take responsibility for having the foresight and planning Christmas with me. He neither invited me and my sons to be with him, or suggested that he come with me. Sometimes I would catch him looking at women, usually the big-busted, tight-jeaned, fake blond types, you know, the sort of 'slutty' types, sorry, but that's the only ones he'd stare at.

ne time, in a theatre line-up, we were talking and he literally looked away from me and his head actually turned as he stared at one of these blondies. It was so obvious, I felt as small as a spec of dust, standing beside him. I have always brought up all of these things to G and he has responded by trying to change his behaviour. G always tries to please me, he does NOT criticize or find fault with me. His old life was promiscuous and without much responsibility. To top it off, he currently lives with his parents to help with the cost of university.

One week ago, I told him that unless he moved out of his parents place, put a ring on my finger, proposed marriage and set a date with me by a certain date, I would be walking from the relationship. We've talked marriage a number of times in the past. He phoned me after 4 days and said he thinks it is a good idea, that he doesn't think he can live without me and that he loves me. I told him he really can live without me and vice versa, but that we should marry out of want, not need.

He met me the next day and we talked for a few hours. He admitted his commitment phobia, his feeling of being trapped, losing self, difficulty with sacrifice, shallowness, and yearning for his old life occasionally. He said he talked to parents, family and friends and they all encouraged him to commit to me. He said it's not about whether I love YOU or not, it's about my problem of seeing my "life flash before my eyes" every time I think about marriage.

I asked him why he hadn't seen a counsellor about this problem already, since we'd talked about this before. He said he might do that now. I told him that we are in different places, that it would not be right for me to "wait" any longer, since he could have seen a counsellor about this problem long before it got to an ultimatum. I told him I was holding myself in high esteem from now on and that I deserve to have someone who is ready for commitment. I went out that night with one of my sons to a movie and when I got back, there were 12 long stemmed roses with a note that read "you mean more to me than anybody or anything. I want to be yours if you will still have me. Love you, G". You see, I know he tries.

Here's my question to you ... am I right in sticking to my date that I chose for a marriage proposal, ring on my finger and wedding date in place? I still feel I should stick to it and so does his sister-in-law who is a friend of mine. Talk is cheap, I want to see ACTION. And true to the onsite articles, he will talk a blue streak about his own issues, but I told him I want to see action.

Am I doing the right thing? I am prepared to walk away from this relationship. I am an attractive person with a good personality and many friends. I have a lot going for me. I know I can meet someone else. I want this man, I don't 'need' him, if you know what I mean. He has a great mind, is a creative genius, is kind, gentle, funny, and, on a more shallow level, has the body of a dancer.

It's the commitment thing and because he doesn't cut me down, it makes it all the harder to see clearly. If someone is always cutting you down, it's easier to see that he is not good for you. G also did not pour on the attention in the beginning of the relationship, as
was described in one of the onsite articles. However, he does have a problem committing to either breaking up with me or marrying me.

Thanks so much!


Fellow CP lover.

From Commitment Phobe to "I Do"! A ten-step plan for winning your CP's heart and getting that long overdue & much deserved commitment. Get the Commitment Phobe to Make a Commitment! Join Our Awesome Community and talk with other CPs and CP Lovers!

Dream Chasers: The Commitment Phobe Addiction (Falling in Love and Dealing with a Commitmentphobic Person). You can be reading this insightful information, written especially for those who are in love with a commitment phobic person, in less than two minutes! (NOTE: This webBook is free when you join our community!)

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He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
It seems like everywhere you turn the phrase "He's just not that into you" is being thrown around. And for good reason! The ladies are finally done waiting by the phone - hey, why sit at home for the phone to ring when it's so obvious that he's just not that into you?

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