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Getting To Commitment

Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment issues or involved with someone who is.

He's Scared, She's Scared

Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

Men Who Can't Love

This book saved me from going crazy and from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded just like the people in this book she'd read - "Men Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the same time.

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

This is a great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual to other are understandable and can be explained and treated.

Lucy's Story (in love with a CP)

I met my CP on the internet. We had both been visiting the same computer game forum for over a year, and had become friends during that time. I intalled MSN messenger chat program on my computer a couple of months back, and we started chatting, swapping computer game tips - and flirting - and we 'clicked' straight away. I admit I did most of the chasing at the beginning because he is quite shy, but it was very easy. Within 3 days of our first chat we swapped phone numbers and were arranging to meet. From that point on, it was wonderful. I knew it wasn't going to be easy - we lived on different continents.

It was, for that brief period of time though, the most wonderful thing I have ever experienced. Within a week he told me he had fallen in love with me. We were chatting online for 6 or 7 hours every night, more at weekends, despite the time difference, and phoning each other every couple of days. He completely swept me off my feet - he would phone in the middle of the night (my time) to leave messages on my answering machine telling me goodnight and that he loved me. We were desparate to meet each other. He was gushing about me to his friends and to our mutual online friends - showing them my photos and raving about how gorgeous I was, and how in love we were. We discussed our planned meeting over and over. He told me he never loved anyone the way he felt about me - his heart belonged to me forever - he wanted to be with me always - we talked about going on vacation together - everything he said about the future was about us being together.

I knew he had had a string of past girlfriends, all short relationships, and that when he was young he had lived with a girl for a couple of years, until he found out that she had cheated on him - not just once, but many times with many different people. I knew he had been badly hurt, but just not how much. He told me it didn't matter, he had now found me and I was his last love. We even discussed the possibility of me emigrating to be with him (which scared me rigid to be honest).

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I got a flight at short notice to go meet him - and still it was perfect. He seemed to be everything I hoped for, and more. He was obviously deeply in love with me, holding my hand at every opportunity, stealing looks at me when he thought I wasn't looking, and grinning from ear to ear the whole time. This wasn't something he was faking, he was very much in love with me. We spent a week together, and everything clicked perfectly. The mutual online friends we also met up with (none of us had ever met before) said we looked like the perfect couple. We had been 'together' a month at this point.

Then I came home. Things were fine at first, but I noticed after about a week that when we chatted he often had to go do other things, and sometimes turned up late or cut it short. He seemed reluctant to discuss future arrangements, and the sweet things he used to say were getting less and less. I was being put on a schedule.

Then 2 weeks later, 3 weeks after we met, he avoided me completely for 2 days. I e-mailed him to ask him what was wrong, and he e-mailed back telling me he was so sorry - I was a wonderful person, but he couldn't handle relationships - never had been able to. I deserved better than him, and it wasn't me, it was him. I asked him to chat with me, and he did - He said he was a jerk - that he still loved me as a friend, and that he didn't know what had gone wrong - he was so so sorry, he never wanted to hurt me, and he felt dreadful. I was devastated - but sympathetic. We had been friends before we fell in love, and I felt awful - both for myself and him. I agreed that I wanted us to be friends - I still want that.

A couple of days later we chatted again - I asked him to explain why, since everything had been wonderful. He said he couldn't really explain it, but that he felt a great deal of tension about being in a relationship with me. Again, I was sympathetic, I had no desire to cause him any tension. I told him so, that I didn't want or need commitment from him (I don't, I had only a couple of months before we started chatting broken up with the man I lived with for 11 years) but that I felt we were throwing away something that could be a lot of fun. We agreed that we would keep it 'casual' which suited me fine, and he seemed very happy with that. We chatted in a friendly manner for the next couple of days - I was very careful not to say anything that might cause him stress. Then nothing. We haven't spoken for a week now, at all. I e-mailed him, asking him if he still wanted to be friends, but he hasn't replied, and has been avoiding any sort of contact with me.

I am very upset that it has turned out like this. He is a wonderful man, but for this one huge problem. I miss him terribly, no-one has ever been able to make me laugh the way he did. But I decided, after finding out about commitment phobia (which I'd never heard of until yesterday) that I must move on, get on with my life. This has been the best, and the worst, 2 months of my life. I am hoping that he will get in contact soon - I miss him as a friend as much as anything else.


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The Girls' Guide to Surviving a Break-Up
The essential female companion from the first moment he walks out of your life! The Girls' Guide to Surviving a Break-Up offers step-by-step advice for getting over him.

The Hell with Love: Poems to Mend a Broken Heart
Finally a book of poetry that describes every emotion you go through when you are in love and heart broken. This book is amazing and wonderful. I recommend it to who ever loves poetry and ever had a broken heart.

He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
It seems like everywhere you turn the phrase "He's just not that into you" is being thrown around. And for good reason! The ladies are finally done waiting by the phone - hey, why sit at home for the phone to ring when it's so obvious that he's just not that into you?

Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit?
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