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Getting To Commitment

Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment issues or involved with someone who is.

He's Scared, She's Scared

Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.

Men Who Can't Love

This book saved me from going crazy and from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded just like the people in this book she'd read - "Men Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the same time.

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

This is a great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual to other are understandable and can be explained and treated.

MJ's Story (CP)

I know that I have had problems with commitment in many aspects of my life. I came across this site and read all the stories of the men and women who either broke up with or were in love with CPs. I found the stories to be insightful and identified w/ the relationship patterns of both the victims and the perpetraters.

I am making a commitment to myself to reform my behaviour but in the meantime, I do have a story to write..........

I am a 38yr.old woman,attractive and have never been married. I have never even been engaged. It's not that I have not had opportunities, it's just that marriage/commitment was something I never envisioned for myself. When I reflect back on the few relationships I have had, the men were always unavailable in some form either physically or emotionally. Whenever I was sexually involved with a man/boyfriend, I was always at his place,bed,territory because that was how I set up our intimacy. I never had a man spend the night at my place because I did not feel good about letting him into my world. Insecurity tore at me constantly and I always felt that if I allowed a man to come to my place, then he could and would judge me negatively about my surroundings such as furniture,books,housekeeping,etc. and he would not want anything to do with me.

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I have done this all my life not letting people into my world but the problem is that at some point, you either let your guard down or make up excuses why you no longer want to continue seeing someone.

I finally have let my guard down with a man I met recently while I was in Hawaii. His name is Ralph and he is unfortunately geographically undesirable since he resides in Amsterdam. I wasn't looking for anything or anyone when we met. I was in Hawaii on business but during my down time I wanted to party a little so I went to a bar and that is where we met. We exchanged phone numbers and went out the next night. Very nice date, great conversation and agreed to see each other again the following evening. Another great night, this time we kissed and the pace was very romantic. Since it was my last night in Hawaii, I wanted him to spend the night with me. He did and enjoyed a passionate night together. The next morning he asked me to stay longer on the island. I was embarrassed but I admitted that I could not change my ticket because it would be an extra expense that I could not justify at the moment. He was so sweet about it and because he wanted me to stay with him, he made the arrangement to change my travel day and paid the extra expense.

Basically, we had a wonderful time together. Ralph had been in Hawaii for over a month on holiday and was going to go home right after but he came to visit me for a week where I live in the states. I have to say that this is the very first time in my life that I have allowed a man into my turf,meeting my sisters and friends. We felt very comfortable together and had the very same connection together. He has invited me to visit with him where he lives in Amsterdam and has offered to take care of the arrangements.

I am realistic and until I have a confirmed travel itinerary, then I have to just keep things in perspective. There are CP traits that this man and I both share after all, he is 40 and has never been married himself or engaged. I don't know where this relationship will lead but I have feelings for him that I have not felt in many years. At the same time, I have a life too and I have to continue it.

In closing I will say this, regardless of the future w/ Ralph, he has demonstrated to me that I do not need to fear intimacy. I let him in my world as imperfect as it is. He slept in my bed,saw my unorganized closets and cupboards, rode in my car, ate my food, met my cats, friends and sisters.

All this time I was ashamed of my life and surroundings (childhood memories) and I never needed to be. I care about Ralph and look forward to a reunion with him. At the same time, I feel fearless now that the shades are raised. What was I so afraid of?

From Commitment Phobe to "I Do"! A ten-step plan for winning your CP's heart and getting that long overdue & much deserved commitment. Get the Commitment Phobe to Make a Commitment! Join Our Awesome Community and talk with other CPs and CP Lovers!

Dream Chasers: The Commitment Phobe Addiction (Falling in Love and Dealing with a Commitmentphobic Person). You can be reading this insightful information, written especially for those who are in love with a commitment phobic person, in less than two minutes! (NOTE: This webBook is free when you join our community!)

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The Girls' Guide to Surviving a Break-Up
The essential female companion from the first moment he walks out of your life! The Girls' Guide to Surviving a Break-Up offers step-by-step advice for getting over him.

The Hell with Love: Poems to Mend a Broken Heart
Finally a book of poetry that describes every emotion you go through when you are in love and heart broken. This book is amazing and wonderful. I recommend it to who ever loves poetry and ever had a broken heart.

He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
It seems like everywhere you turn the phrase "He's just not that into you" is being thrown around. And for good reason! The ladies are finally done waiting by the phone - hey, why sit at home for the phone to ring when it's so obvious that he's just not that into you?

Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit?
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