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Getting To Commitment

Mr. Steven Carter's great insights into relationship dynamics are presented here in an easy-to-understand language, and without overdoing the psychological perspectives. Many commitment questions are answered here in this book. A must read for anyone afflicted with commitment issues or involved with someone who is.


He's Scared, She's Scared

Available for the first time in paperback, this follow-up to the phenomenally successful Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of commitmentphobia, that persistent obstacle to truly satisfying contemporary relationships. Authors Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men and women are torn between the desire for intimacy and the equally intense need for independence. Drawing on numerous interviews and real-life scenarios, and written with humor, insight, and the kind of wisdom gained by personal experience, He's Scared, She's Scared offes guidance for all of us who want genuine, sustained intimacy with our romantic partners.


Men Who Can't Love

This book saved me from going crazy and from wasting any more of my precious time with a man who is a consumate commitmentphobic. I got this book after a therapist friend of mine said that all my complaining and moaning about my commitmentphobic boyfriend sounded just like the people in this book she'd read - "Men Who Can't Love". I got on line and nabbed a copy. What a life saver! My jaw dropped as I read this book because it describes the behaviors of commitmentphobics precisely as I have been experiencing my boyfriend's behavior. It's so true that the more I pressed him for answers while trying to understand his avoidant behaviors, the more he withdrew from me. "I don't wanna talk about it" is his mantra. All his behaviors were laid out like his biography in this book. It was shocking and revealing at the same time.


I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

This is a great book for an inside look at Borderline Personality Disorder. If you have a person with BPD in life this book is a must have. If you have BPD it will help you understand that some of your behaviors that seem unusual to other are understandable and can be explained and treated.

Relationship Advice: Commit When You Are Ready, and Not a Moment Before
By Jeff Herring

Q. Besides the fact that my parents are divorced, many of my friends are divorced and I was raised in a household where my father constantly said things like, "Don't say the 'M' word" (when referring to marriage) I have always believed that marriage is an honorable institution and should last a lifetime: My problem is that I can't seem to make the commitment of "forever" -- at least not yet. When my boyfriend proposed to me after 10 short months of dating, I told him I was not ready to get married; that was five years ago. He constantly asks me when I'm going to be ready, and my answer is always that I don't know.

For some reason, so marry people think that because I'm in my late 2Os, I should have been reacdy to get married a long time ago. Instead, I focus on other areas of my life. We spend a lot of time together, basically any time we're not at work. Part of me would rather be alone than be married right now. Is something wrong with me? _What do you recommend that I do to find out if and when I am ready?

A. I think Carly Simon had it right when she sang:

"Well , they say it's time we got married,
.. we'll have our sleepless nights, angry dawns.
... the couples cling and claw, and drown in love's debris."

In other words, getting married because someone thinks it's time for you to get married is probably one of the worst reasons to get - married.

We are taught in our culture that we should get married when we feel like "we can't five without" a person.

A much more mature approach, and one that bodes far better for a lasting commitment, is to get married not when you feel like you can't live without someone, but to consider marriage and commitment when you could live without the person, but you would much rather live with them.

At the same time, marriage and commitment are words that can send many of us fleeing in terror, especially if we haven't seen many marriages that work well.

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Commitment is not a function of age

One important thing to remember is that commitment is not a function of age.

I've worked with people in their early 20s who were ready for commitment, and I've worked with people in their 50s who still were not ready.

That's because commitment is more a function of maturity than of age, as well as finding the right person to whom to commit.

Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.

From Commitment Phobe to "I Do"! A ten-step plan for winning your CP's heart and getting that long overdue & much deserved commitment. Get the Commitment Phobe to Make a Commitment! Join Our Awesome Community and talk with other CPs and CP Lovers!

Dream Chasers: The Commitment Phobe Addiction (Falling in Love and Dealing with a Commitmentphobic Person). You can be reading this insightful information, written especially for those who are in love with a commitment phobic person, in less than two minutes! (NOTE: This webBook is free when you join our community!)

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He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
It seems like everywhere you turn the phrase "He's just not that into you" is being thrown around. And for good reason! The ladies are finally done waiting by the phone - hey, why sit at home for the phone to ring when it's so obvious that he's just not that into you?

Women Men Love, Women Men Leave: What Makes Men Want to Commit?
In easy psychological terms, this book helps a woman understand why a man may react negatively to her even when she feels she's doing everything right for a relationship. With different female personalities portrayed, the reader will find themselves fitting one or more of the profiles.

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